Get Back Your Wife - How to Contact Her

So it's been a while since the break up, but you've decided that you want to get back your wife. Assuming the two of you haven't kept in touch, you're going to need to decide the best means of contacting her. What's the best way to get in touch with your wife, so you can maximize your chances of getting her to come back?

Before you decide how to contact your wife, it's critical that you let enough time pass before you get in touch with her. You're probably dealing with a lot of emotional issues, and you don't want to come unglued. Falling to pieces during your first contact after the breakup isn't exactly the best way to get back your wife.

When you're sure that you've allowed enough time for both you and your wife to work through your feelngs, there are a number of ways you can initiate contact - you could stop by, call, write a note, or send an email. These are the most common means of contact... if you're creative, you can probably think of others.

It's almost always a bad idea to just drop by without calling or writing first. She might not be ready to discuss the possibility of getting back together, and may not be happy with you just showing up out of the blue. It's likely that she'll even see it as an intrusion, and then she'll have another reason to be angry with you! When you're trying to get your ex back, stopping by unannouced is usually the worst possible choice.

Calling can work pretty well, but only if you know you can manage your emotions while on the phone with your wife. If you're coping with infidelity or recovering some other particularly bad event, you might very well go to pieces when you get on the phone with your ex. If you know how to stay calm, though, this can be an excellent way to initiate contact without seeming intrusive.

If you don't really know how to get your ex back, or if you think you could possibly come unglued when you get your wife on the phone, the best way to contact her might be to write a letter or send an email. This allows you to ponder your words for as long as necessary, and gives you the advantage of carefully putting your strategy into motion. Although writing is not as personal as calling, it allows you to control whay you say... and this can make the difference between seeing your ex again and having her decide not to give you another chance.

(If you haven't put together a strategy to get back your wife, check out Save the Marriage - it will take a lot of guesswork out of making your wife see that your marriage is worth saving.

Six Techniques for Saving a Failed Marriage

When most people realize that they are living in a failed marriage, they tend to think that their marriage failed overnight. This is rarely the case... it typically happens over a period of years, as disagreements, petty arguments, and frustrations accumulate. Individually, they aren’t a big problem, but together, they can eventually destroy your marriage.

But when you come to this realization, is your marriage truly over?

Not at all! If you use the right techniques, consistently and methodically, you can put your marriage back on the right track in a matter of hours. The trouble is, most of us learn the wrong techniques – mostly from our parents and other authority figures – so we don’t know how to build a happy, loving marriage. So we end up destroying our relationships instead.

Fortunately, the right techniques are not difficult to find… if you know where to look, that is. I’ve spent nearly a decade looking for the answers that make a strong, fulfilling marriage tick – I didn’t find them overnight, but once I finally put all the pieces together… I had an “a-ha” moment that I knew I wanted to share with others dealing with a failed marriage.

But what if your spouse doesn’t want to put the effort into restoring your marriage? You probably feel pretty alone, but in about 90% of failing marriages, one partner cares a lot more than the other about putting things back together.

The good news is, you can start moving your relationship in the right direction by yourself. You can’t do it all alone, but with the right strategies, you can make enough progress to get your partner on board. Your spouse will see improvements in your relationship… and will be inspired to start contributing as well.

You can get started saving your failed marriage today with these six simple techniques:

1) Take time to do little things for your partner. Small acts of kindness and empathy are like unexpected jewels for your partner – especially when your spouse is having a rough day, or is just exhausted from all the demands of day to day life. These jewels will go a long way toward restoring your marriage, even though they don’t require a lot of time or money. Things like bringing your spouse breakfast in bed, running an errand that he or she forgot, or picking up a quart of your spouse’s favorite ice cream... these are but a few of the small kindnesses that will work wonders for your marriage.

2) Find new activities that you both might enjoy, and take the time to try out those activities together. Couples frequently complain that they no longer share common interests, because they have simply grown apart. The real issue usually isn’t growing apart, though… it’s that the things you used to enjoy together have become stale and boring. Be adventurous and try something together that you never thought you’d try… salsa dancing, skydiving, antiques shopping – anything to restore your connection with your spouse and keep the marriage fresh.

3) Understand that your own personal issues affect your marriage. Ever snapped at your partner because some completely unrelated issue was getting to you? Most likely, you’ve done it at least a few times. We all do it occasionally, but when your personal issues habitually affect how you interact with your spouse, it's time to start dealing with your own emotional issues. You may need to see a counselor, and there’s no shame in discussing your personal issues with a professional. It can be a huge contribution toward saving your failed marriage.

4) Compliment your partner frequently, and say “thank you” more often than you need to. After spending years in a marriage, couples tend focus heavily on the negative aspects of their relationships… and take the good things for granted. Rather than focusing on your spouse's faults, express gratitude for the things he or she contributes to your marriage. Compliments are wonderful too – we all want our spouses to think we’re intelligent, attractive, talented, witty… no matter how confident your spouse seems to be, he or she still wants your reassurance. And when make your spouse’s day with a sincere compliment… you show him or her you’re still the hero you were on your wedding day.

5) When disagreeing with your spouse, try to see things from your partner's perspective (this, my friend, requires listening). You can learn a lot by making an effort to understand how your spouse could perceive the situation differently. Plus, showing that your partner's feelings are important to you will go a long way toward repairing your failed marriage.

Don’t think this means the two of you will never disagree again. That’s not only unrealistic… it would actually be a bad thing. When you disagree respectfully, differences of opinion make your marriage stronger and more engaging. Think about what marriage would be like if the two of you agreed on every single issue. Pretty boring...

6) Concentrate on solutions, not on assessing blame. It usually doesn't matter who started the argument, or who caused the issue. Insisting on laying blame only fosters resentment, which drives an even bigger wedge into your marriage. Instead, focus your energy on finding mutually agreeable solutions. Often, when you shift your focus away from blame, it’s surprisingly easy to find a solution that works for you both.

Using these strategies will help you make an incredible difference in the quality of your marriage. For more tips, resources, and inspiration, as well as a step-by-step plan for restoring your relationship - even if your partner doesn't want to - visit Save the Marriage.

Welcome to Get Back Your Wife

Have you lost your wife because of marital disputes? Many counselors and therapists advocate better communication as the way to get back wife, but the sad truth is that better communication usually only leads to more effective fighting!

That's why I started this site - there are far better ways to get back wife, even if she's not willing to re-commit to the relationship yet. Knowing how to fix your marriage is just as important as the willingness to do so - it makes the difference between a happy, harmonious relationship and continued years of anger and frustration.

Listen, I know how difficult it is to lose a spouse - I've been there. It makes getting out of bed in the morning an almost impossible chore. It clouds your every waking hour with a swirl of negative emotions. It's utterly debilitating... and it can ruin your life.

After years of talking with couples who just couldn't seem to keep their relationships together, I stumbled on something that made a huge difference for these couples. It's a course called Save the Marriage by Dr. Lee Baucom. I've seen marriages turn around almost overnight thanks to this course... that's why I recommend it as the first step for people who want to restore their marriages.

Unlike marriage counseling and couples retreats, Save the Marriage costs less than a dinner out. And it works far better. Even if your spouse isn't interested in getting back together right now, you can start using the techniques contained in the course to get your marriage back on course. Don't worry, your spouse will come around.... but only if you know what to do.

Husbands, you're not going to get back wife by doing the same things you've always done. That's part of what put your marriage in trouble in the first place. You can put your marriage back together - it will take time, patience and work, but with the techniques found in Save the Marriage, you'll have the knowledge and power to rebuild a happy marriage. I know from first-hand experience, your wife will thank you!