Get Back Your Wife - How to Contact Her

So it's been a while since the break up, but you've decided that you want to get back your wife. Assuming the two of you haven't kept in touch, you're going to need to decide the best means of contacting her. What's the best way to get in touch with your wife, so you can maximize your chances of getting her to come back?

Before you decide how to contact your wife, it's critical that you let enough time pass before you get in touch with her. You're probably dealing with a lot of emotional issues, and you don't want to come unglued. Falling to pieces during your first contact after the breakup isn't exactly the best way to get back your wife.

When you're sure that you've allowed enough time for both you and your wife to work through your feelngs, there are a number of ways you can initiate contact - you could stop by, call, write a note, or send an email. These are the most common means of contact... if you're creative, you can probably think of others.

It's almost always a bad idea to just drop by without calling or writing first. She might not be ready to discuss the possibility of getting back together, and may not be happy with you just showing up out of the blue. It's likely that she'll even see it as an intrusion, and then she'll have another reason to be angry with you! When you're trying to get your ex back, stopping by unannouced is usually the worst possible choice.

Calling can work pretty well, but only if you know you can manage your emotions while on the phone with your wife. If you're coping with infidelity or recovering some other particularly bad event, you might very well go to pieces when you get on the phone with your ex. If you know how to stay calm, though, this can be an excellent way to initiate contact without seeming intrusive.

If you don't really know how to get your ex back, or if you think you could possibly come unglued when you get your wife on the phone, the best way to contact her might be to write a letter or send an email. This allows you to ponder your words for as long as necessary, and gives you the advantage of carefully putting your strategy into motion. Although writing is not as personal as calling, it allows you to control whay you say... and this can make the difference between seeing your ex again and having her decide not to give you another chance.

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